Dealing with a Broken Heart

There are lots of ways by which you can in come in terms with the reality of a break up. Accepting the situation will make you more self -confident and enable you to pick up yourself and move on. Avoid negative thinking at all costs. Thinking negatively can harm you well -being adversely and will be of no use in changing the situation. On the other hand if you stick to thinking positive thoughts you will feel a lot better and help you bounce back from the breakup quickly and easily. It is essential to cast away all those past memories. Along with the memories ensure you are removing all things of the past like gifts you got from him or her on special occasions like anniversary , Valentine 's Day , birthday , etc. This will prepare you to move on with your future where there is more possibility of a new relationship. Test waters in activities that you have never challenged yourself before. Try to get to the outdoors as much as possible and indulge yourself in adventurous activities like hiking , trekking , running , mountain climbing , etc. Set goals and achieve something in life that you have never attempted or done till date. In a short while you will realized that a breakup is no big thing in life that is so vast and vibrant. Sign for a fitness plan. Join a gym or fitness club where you can meet similar people with similar goals. Simultaneously keep the break up thoughts out of your mind and think only of your present and future goals. Focus your energies on productive goals and you will automatically feel better and alive with a clarified state of mind. If you are still unable to get over the breakup , try to imagine the flaws and drawbacks in your ex. Try to remind yourself of all the setbacks that could have happened if the relationship would have continued. Like an irrational and lack of understanding , a unromantic person , nagging talks , etc. Lessons learn from the past It is true that nobody enjoys a breakup. It is a stressful and testing time for both the partners. But look at the brighter side. You should have learn something new from being in the relationship. Someday in the future , you will laugh at yourself for doing stupid and silly things over the frenzy of the breakup. Ideally after a breakup people become better at choosing a better partner. Your choice making becomes more intelligent as now you are backed by experience gained from mistakes of the past. The choice you make will be one that surpasses looks and attractions but one that will be based on true love , affection and mutual respect. Still better now you would have learn how a partner should treat the other in a relationship. You will try to invoke more understanding in the relationship that will lead to both people being happy together. Encouragements and compliments would flow by default and you will stop pointing out unnecessary and pointless remarks on your love. Now that you have learn from your ex what not to talk and what not to accuse about. The failed relationship will do far more good in the future where you will stronger and resistant if again you are faced with a breakup. Your experience and revival from the present one will save you from you more damage and will encourage you to move forward like nothing has ever happened. When in a good relationship where partners respect each other there is love and care for each other. There is proper communication which leads to a better outward life in the public that is devoid of all complications. You will learn to respect and consider the time , space and privacy of another individual. You know that others too have a right to speak out. The beautiful thing about a relationship is that you will know more about yourself. You will not be defined by one person. You will stop presuming yourself as someone mirrored by your partner.